By Lara Fielding | Monday, January 11, 2016
You know that moment when the thought crosses your mind, or someone asks you, “Do you have any New Year’s resolutions?” Part of you has a momentary thought about the things you would like to change this year. But your mind, and your answer quickly go to “Resolutions don’t work. So why set them?” After prior years of disappointment, your mind... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Monday, January 18, 2016
Letting Go of the Argument in your Head  We all know that feeling. Someone said something, (maybe it was you), which was followed by an unpleasant outcome. Maybe an awkward silence, a ridiculing laughter, a disparaging comment. Or maybe the outcome was simply not at all what you had hoped for. Then its over. But is it? That night the image of the moment comes roaring back in your mind... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Monday, January 25, 2016
Setting Limits is tough for Sensetive PeopleHow does this keep happening!? You knew you didn’t want to go to that event… help out with that thing… didn’t have time to get across town in time for that meeting! But you said you would go…do it… be there anyway. Why do we say “Yes” when we really need to say “No”? More importantly, how can we stop doing that without pissing people off or... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Tuesday, February 9, 2016
For Valentines Day: An Open Letter to Your Heart  Dear Hearts: To and from You - we are grateful. It is You that give us the gratitude we feel . . . For the pull of love's calling For the giddy enthusiasm of a new crush For the awe of our true loves beauty It is You that inspires us To pursue more of these experiences. To hold them close and dearly To protect the one You pull us towards... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Monday, February 22, 2016
Balancing acceptance and change to regulate emotions  Last week Jane came into my office feeling paralyzed and confused. “When my anxiety starts up I try to use my skills to validate my emotions. But then my mind starts finding all the real things I have to feel anxious about!  So how do I know when to listen to my emotions?” Jane’s question is important, because finding the needed balance between... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Monday, March 7, 2016
Finding True North: Your Source of Caring and Motivation  There’s a theme that tends to come up in my office when clients hit an impasse or feel stuck… “It shouldn’t be this hard! It feels like it’s not going to happen for me.” “I don’t know what to do, how it will go, which way to turn!” “Why is it so easy for everyone else?” Have you ever heard yourself say or think some version of this? In the age... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Monday, March 28, 2016
3 Social Comparison Biases that Torpedo Motivation  You know you do it! Most of us do – some more, some less. In the dark of night or light of day, at your desk, or procrastinating before the next task. .... Trolling social media, watching your friends’ successes, casting judgment about whatever thing they're posting and whether your life is better or worse. We ride that wave of envy, taking the... Read More
By Anonymous | Tuesday, April 5, 2016
#TalkToMe Tati: A Survivor's Story of ResilienceThe tension had been brewing to a boiling point the day the Nazis came to collect young Elizabeth and her older sister. Dressed and packed with their best things, the trip began almost as an adventurous escape from the abusive constraints of their dictator father. Little did she know, this was the beginning of the long road of resilience. Why do... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Tuesday, May 3, 2016
Finding HappinessWe all want to be happy…. Or at least have more happiness than sadness, anxiety, or anger in our lives. But we don't know how the basic system of our mind-body machines functions, to either promote or hinder our happiness. A simple understanding of this system can get you moving in the right direction! Every week I get calls from people eager to... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Thursday, May 19, 2016
The Dark Side of Self-Esteem.Of course we all want to feel good about ourselves!  Striving for success, accomplishing goals, feeling appreciated are all a part of a healthy life well lived. But is there a point at which the pursuit of subjective self worth can trip us up? Like anything in excess, self-esteem can have a dark side, and it may not be exactly what you think!  ... Read More