By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Tuesday, January 30, 2018
Mental Health Labels: Getting Beyond Stigma Diagnostic labels are helpful as a shorthand way of communicating what one is experiencing. But I wonder; might they also contribute to keeping us stuck and maintaining the larger societal stigma? Instead of focusing on labels, perhaps we need to encourage a language that speaks to the continuum of normal human psychology and the underlying... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Tuesday, January 16, 2018
Is Your Quarter-Life Crisis Fueled by Uncertainty Intolerance? “But I’m not sure!” “What if?” “I don’t know if it’s good enough.” Feelings of uncertainty and doubt come part and parcel with building a life you love. Yet it’s so easy to get hijacked by the anxiety and worry, when we don’t know for sure. We can get paralyzed by the F.O.T.U. Fear Of The Unknown! The Quarter-Life Crisis and FOTU Recent... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Monday, July 24, 2017
Body Positivity in a Sea of Skinny Body Positivity in a Sea of Skinny Looking out from the eyes of a young girl, everyone was thin and beautiful. It was a ‘sea of skinny,’ for young Jodi Guber Brufsky growing up in the limelight of her powerful father. A uniquely challenging environment for a little girl whose natural body set point was not the norm in her environment. “Self... Read More
By Anonymous | Sunday, May 14, 2017
Two Faces of YouWe all have private internal experiences (emotions, thoughts, bodily sensations, and impulses), which we keep to ourselves, only sharing to a certain few. Having appropriate boundaries like this is healthy and necessary for effectively negotiating the world. But some of us have a harder time than others showing up ‘in our skin’ so to speak – fully... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Thursday, February 2, 2017
psychological flexibility  I have the words of Bob Dylan floating through my mind these days….. This past week client after client has plopped themselves on my couch, called for skills coaching, or submitted home practice related to the vast changes our world is observing. “What now?” “I’m scared!” “We’re on a slippery slope to doom,” is the tone of what I am hearing. Yep... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Monday, January 9, 2017
Just about anyone you ask thinks they’re super self aware. Yet we all know so many people we judge to be unaware, distracted, even ‘clueless’ to their own stuff. So, what’s going on here? Are we all in denial?  We all have gaps in self-awareness because seeing our foibles naturally causes discomfort. Self-awareness can trigger self-judgment, which... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Wednesday, December 21, 2016
Validation skills, the balm that sooths strong emotionsEver found yourself caught in a difficult dialogue with someone (maybe even with yourself), where emotions were escalating, and reasoning not helping? It can feel like a futile battle as you try everything to stomp out the flickering flames of emotion before a brush fire takes hold! You try to focus on the positive, examine the pros and cons,... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Tuesday, November 22, 2016
Surviving the holidays Why Family is a Trigger The holidays are a massive breading ground for triggers and autopilot reactivity! AND - also an opportunity to practice your skills! Are you ready? Are you skilled up to get through drama free this year? Well, I've got ya covered with some simple practices for overriding reactivity in the heat of the moment. Ever wonder... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Wednesday, November 16, 2016
A lot of people are feeling a lot of emotions right now, ranging from hopeful to hopeless; from satisfied to enraged. When we have disagreements, both sides become convinced that ‘if only the other side understood’ their side of things, all could be well.  The result? Everyone is ‘explaining’ – no one is listening – the divide grows! As I watch... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Wednesday, November 9, 2016
Healing Disappointment: Stronger TogetherIn a nation where half of us are filled with shock and sadness, skillfulness takes on a much different tone. On a normal day, the ultimate aim would be to move towards feeling better, or even happiness. But today is NOT a normal day. Today is a day of monumental practice. Today is a day for the excruciating practice of sitting with our sadness as... Read More