By Lara Fielding | Monday, January 18, 2016
Letting Go of the Argument in your Head  We all know that feeling. Someone said something, (maybe it was you), which was followed by an unpleasant outcome. Maybe an awkward silence, a ridiculing laughter, a disparaging comment. Or maybe the outcome was simply not at all what you had hoped for. Then its over. But is it? That night the image of the moment comes roaring back in your mind... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Monday, January 11, 2016
You know that moment when the thought crosses your mind, or someone asks you, “Do you have any New Year’s resolutions?” Part of you has a momentary thought about the things you would like to change this year. But your mind, and your answer quickly go to “Resolutions don’t work. So why set them?” After prior years of disappointment, your mind... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Monday, December 21, 2015
Self Awareness as a Gift to Yourself What do you need? Now that the holiday shopping is (mostly) finished, and we look to the New Year, perhaps it is a time when you may be selfish. . . in the best sense of the word! Building your self-awareness is the best gift you can give yourself, and ultimately to share with those you love. The Gift of Self-Awareness Before you can know what... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Monday, December 14, 2015
Pernicious PerfectionismIf you're a perfectionist, you know all too well how this way of being can trap you. You set high expectations for yourself, which can lead to success, and boost your self-esteem. But with those lofty goals can come a reciprocal mountain of self-criticism and judgment, which gets in the way of the success you seek! Three Typical Patterns of... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Sunday, December 6, 2015
Mindful-Mastery Skills Mantra The essence of mindfulness is training the mind to recognize unconscious reactions, so that we may move out of autopilot and into more adaptive responding. Once you start Hacking Your Habits, there are three simple processes to practice undermining autopilot. Moving from Awareness to Effectiveness Just as each component on the dashboard of... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Tuesday, November 24, 2015
Mind Habits can be just as problematicHabits are not just behaviors. We can also fall into particular patterns of thinking, which hold us stuck in emotion driven behavior. Knowing your particular mind habits can help you to monitor when you have moved from productive and helpful aspects, to the counter productive. As noted in the last blog, How to Hack Your Habits, habits become... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Tuesday, November 17, 2015
How to Hack Your HabitsYou know how it goes when you get triggered. Something happens, and before you know it, you are hooked. Pulled into an auto-pilot repertoire of thinking and behaving, which inevitably leads to a less than ideal outcome. These traps are extraordinarily difficult for us to catch in flight precisely because they are so quick and automatic. We are all... Read More
By Lara Fielding | Monday, November 9, 2015
Response-ability In one sense, we are not really responsible for our mental states. Humans can easily get caught in evolutionarily hardwired mind traps. These are the auto-pilot repertoires of thinking and behaving, which we just assume are ‘the kind of person I am.” These traps are extraordinarily difficult for us to see, because they are just what we do, and... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Sunday, November 1, 2015
The mind-body system for regulating emotions is a paradox! You know how it goes. Whether you are just starting a diet, or trying not to think about 'that guy!' The more important you make it to not think about something, the more you think about it! In the last two blogs the mind-body-vehicle and passengers metaphors helped explain why despite our... Read More
By Lara Fielding Psy.D., Ed.M | Sunday, October 25, 2015
Passengers can derail us from our true purposeYou knew it! It was so obvious! You’ve seen this sort of thing so many times before – there was absolutely, positively, not a doubt in your mind. And then…. You were wrong…. We’ve all been there. A gripping thought – a tacit assumption – a core belief, which just feeeels so true. A strong emotion gets triggered and we can’t even imagine an... Read More